The
Scriptures say, “Many waters cannot quench love, neither can floods drown it. If a man offered for love all the wealth of
his house, he would be utterly despised” (Song of Solomon 8:7). God speaks of love in this particular context
as a strong romantic affection between a man and a woman. It might be when you think about and want to
be with that person, and are mysteriously drawn to him or her. Let us call this desire. There is good desire (or affection) and
bad. When we have this desire for
someone outside of marriage, it is bad.
It should be kept within the boundary of the husband and wife
relationship. When desire turns into
immoral lust, it is bad. We know it is
lust (and not true love) when we are driven by our insatiable dreams and our
physical obsession for another person.
The test of bad desire is, “I want for me.” The test of good desire is, “I want so I can
serve and bless another person.”
How
can we find real love? It starts with
the author of love Himself, God. He
created the first man and woman, brought them together and presided over their
marriage. The Scriptures say “God is
love” (1 John 4:8). How did He
demonstrate that love? When He sent His
Son, Jesus, to suffer and die upon a cross for you and me that we might call
upon Him for the forgiveness of our sins, it was real love.
Genuine
love starts at affection then moves on to sacrificial service. It is not about what I am getting, but what I
am giving. It is not if I am saying the
right words, but if I am listening with the right heart. It is not about what I am feeling, but how I
am serving.
May God be your hope for today as you seek for and live out true love.
