I truly believe if couples were asked straight up if they want a successful, healthy relationship, that 100% would give a definite yes. I believe God has the best way to achieve that, but His way swims against popular culture. God said, “A man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh” (Genesis 3:24). God wants us to go from our parent’s home to marriage or from a season of singleness to marriage. What is the greatest obstacle to that? Ourselves. We want love, happiness, companionship and sexual fulfillment and we want it yesterday! Sometimes our path to achieve those desires is done in self-destructive ways.
Bottom line - we need God’s help. He sent Jesus to die and rise again that we might have victory over our lustful, impatient urges. He came to indwell us by His Spirit and to give us power over our destructive ways. All we need is to call upon God and say to Him, “Oh Lord, no longer my will, but only Yours be done. Change me oh, God!”